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Whenever we are learning something new, many of us have a tendency to get frustrated and disappointed if we don’t get perfect execution within the first few attempts. Not only that, sometimes we don’t give ourselves the chance to celebrate our own small successes because we’re too busy looking toward mastery of that next difficult trick. We try to jump across the river before checking if the current is too swift or if the river bank is too wide.

Approach with Curiosity

But what if we took a minute to enjoy the beauty of the river, respect and learn about its surroundings, and consider that we could build a way across it with small stepping stones. It might be a little slower than jumping or swimming, but it gives us more time and appreciation for the intrinsic nature of the river, and its certainly safer in the long run.

“Success is a journey not a destination – half the fun is getting there.” –Gita Bellin

Life is a Game

In my own experience, I have noticed that when I become obsessed with learning a new “advanced” trick, I start to get tunnel vision. I’ll spend most of my training session working on that one trick and end up grumpy and sore, instead of relaxed and playful. But, when I take the time to honor my own abilities, stay playful in my training, and break the big challenges into smaller ones, I actually enjoy my pole dancing session more and usually make more progress in the end.

The next time, you find yourself faced with a difficult challenge, take a step back to listen to your body, listen to your mind, and cherish what you have already accomplished. Then, evaluate how you can separate your difficult challenge into a series of more manageable challenges. For example, it is very counterproductive and unwise to try and lift 200lbs if you can only lift 100lbs right now. But, if you give yourself time, the proper training, and then celebrate being able to lift 110lbs, then you have a lot better chance to eventually reach your goal of 200lbs.

All steps, whether they are easy or hard, can still take you forward along your path, especially when you give yourself the time and permission to play in the river. When you celebrate these small stepping stones, you honor yourself and your journey.

How do your approach a challenge? How do you celebrate when you succeed? Share your ideas in the comment section!

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Where Are All Your Ducks?

Do you ever find yourself trying to finish the 101 things on your To Do List, while ignoring the one important thing you really want to do?

Do you try to “get all your ducks in a row” before you take your first step toward an activity that you’ve always wanted to do, but that scares you at the same time?

The truth is that just about everybody has this problem, and many of us beat ourselves up constantly about all the important things we’re not doing.  But what if the actions that we resist are actually the perfect opportunity for us to create acceptance for ourselves and learn what is really important to us at the same time.

Turn Your Resistance Around

Consider any time when you had to learn a new skill.

STEP ONE

The first thing you did (although you might have done it unconsciously) was to accept that you didn’t know enough about the subject and you needed to learn more. You had to turn your initial resistance (lack of knowledge) into acceptance as you made mistakes while you learned to do the new skill.

STEP TWO

Then acceptance turned into encouragement because the more you kept at it, the more you learned, and the more you recognized the importance of your new skill.

STEP THREE

Until finally, encouragement turned into accomplishment as you were able to use the skill with ease.

So the next time you resist doing something really important, don’t beat yourself up, take a minute to consider if this is just the opportunity you need to turn acceptance into accomplishment, and take the first step with confidence.

What do you resist the most in your life? How does it feel when you finally accept it? Share your ideas in the comment section!

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